Are you trying to eliminate behavior issues in your child's homeschool? If so, I have some ideas that will help you be able to do that without the constant struggle.
Taking the time to decide if your child's reactions to learning is due to learning gaps or behavior issues is worth the time. If you have expect it to be learning gaps, you can help eliminate them with the tips that I shared in the last post.
How to Eliminate Behavior Issues in Your Child's Education
You have determined that the issues that your child is exhibiting during lessons are actually just due to behavior outbreaks, but you aren't sure how to eliminate them. Each family has their own way of dealing with behavior issues, however I would like to offer you some suggestions that have helped me in homeschooling our children when behavior issues come up. I do believe that this steps have resulted in little behavior issues in our homeschooling journey.
- Be a United Front as a Couple – There is nothing better in working on a child's behavior issues than starting the battle with a united front as a couple. As the main homeschooling teacher, I'm also the main enforcer to correction, which can be very tiring and stressful depending on the kinds of behavior issues that are arising. If I have the same issue arise with the same child, I get my husband involved in the discussion with the child. Often times, I just tell my husband the situation and remove myself, allowing him to support me in the correcting of the behavior on his own. When the child sees that both parents are involved in ensuring that homeschooling time is met with the right attitude, the chances of these arising are diminished.
- Create a Consequence Chart – If you are really struggling with behavior issues, I would highly recommend sitting down as a couple and going over the details of the kinds of behavior issues and in what subject they are arising. Once you understand where they are arising, you can decide on an appropriate consequence chart based on your own family's believe for correcting a child. This will add to the awareness that the parents are a united front and this will quickly help to solve the behavior issues quickly. In addition to that, you spouse may have some insights on solutions that could be eliminating the issues as well. This happened with one of my children and my husband's insights were spot on.
- Take Away Privileges – If the consequence chart that you put into place isn't seeming to give enough weight to the situation of behavior issues happening, I would suggest taking away privileges for a determined length of time. If you aren't willing to be consistent in enforcing this aspect, don't make the mistake in mentioning it because a child that already demonstrates behavior issues will only use this to their advantage and show that they can manipulate the situation. Electronics, television, friends and outings are great things to consider if the consequence chart needs some backing up in more difficult cases.
- Add More Assignments or Chores – There is nothing as powerful as adding additional assignments and chores to a child that demonstrates behavior issues over the lessons that are already given. I have been known to have a child do extra assignments until my husband came home. I have also been known to assign my own chores to a child that doesn't respect the assignments that were given and were having attitudes with me, taking more of my limited time for things around the house.
Having a plan to eliminate the behavior issues in your child's education is the first step toward correcting what is wrong. As the parents, you need to have resolve to be consistent and diligent to the manipulation your child is demonstrating in their behavior. You can do this and you will be so glad you did!
When our son was struggling to learn to read, I needed to be purposeful in getting him over his hurtle. I have six things that I did to eliminate learning gaps for our son. I worked on these six things for a full homeschool year. They worked beautifully!
Before you start working on this list, you will want to be sure if you are dealing with learning gaps or behavior issues. Once you have been able to identify if your child is experiencing learning gaps or behavior issues in their studies, it is important to make a plan for how to eliminate them. If the issues are due to learning gaps, these tips will help you eliminate them.
How to Eliminate Learning Gaps
You now believe that your child has learning gaps, but you aren't sure how to actually eliminate them, without putting pressure on the child. Here are ways that I have used that work and give good results quickly.
- Focused Attention to the Gap – If you identified a gap in learning, the best way to overcome it is to give full attention to helping your child over the humps in front of them. Many choose to use tutoring to get them through the gaps, but all tutoring really is, is someone that gives full attention to where a student is struggling. As a homeschooler, you can do this yourself, however a parent of a child who goes to school can also do this in the evening.
- Implement Additional Time in Your Schedule for this Gap – If your child is struggling in reading, spelling or math, add another session or two into the day that will allow for more practice in this gap. You can even add games, as long as there are results in short periods of a few weeks.
- Focus on Speed Verses Quality – Often times, gaps can really ruin a child's self-confidence. Focusing on building the speed of reading, spelling or math before adding higher level work could really be a great activity to eliminating the hardest obstaclse to gaps. Rushing the basics of the foundations of learning can result in a wider gap with a lot of busy and frustrating work.
- Evaluate Often – If a child is focusing on better reading, time a child with a selection of reading and then retime them a few weeks later with the same selection. If your child struggles with spelling, do an evaluation of how many correct words can be spelled from a list, and in the amount of time it takes. Do this same test a few weeks later, focusing on correct spelling and speed to see if there is marked improvement. Practice math facts with time drills to know how their timing improves over a few weeks. Even the smallest of improvements will build a child's self-confidence and give them more excitement for lessons ahead.
- Eliminate Extra Curricular Activity – Gaps in a child's education is very serious when it involves the basics of learning: reading, writing and math. It would be very difficult to fill these gaps without pressure and stress to a child, which can result in more issues than you can imagine, if you don't remove the extras from their schedule. Giving one full year to fill the gaps without extra things to fill your schedule will prove to be one of the best decisions you can make to help your struggling child gain confidence, skills and learning.
- Start NOW – The longer you wait to help fill the gaps the more bad habits are being formed and will be harder to overcome. You need to give full attention to the areas that your child is struggling in to get the best results, but waiting for a better season in your life is not fair to the child or to your own stress level.
When I have a child that exhibits gaps in their learning, these are the steps that I take to help them in their education. I know that these will be just what you need to help your own child.
Homeschool tantrums are something that many experience, often times daily. These episodes can last for minutes or even hours. It is so important for homeschooling parents to work together to find out if the homeschool tantrums are from learning gaps or behavior issues. These devastating events can be avoided with the proper attention and action, once you understand what is causing them.
Homeschool Tantrums: Identifying Gaps or Behavior Issues
Often times, learning gaps can also cause behavior issues. When walking through these steps be sure to see how your child reacts to the learning gap steps. If they grow upset through them, work on the behavior issues steps.
I'm going to share with you a few steps that you can use to learn how to identify if the issues you are experiencing with your child are gaps or behavior related.
The key to identifying gaps is to eliminate the stress your child may be feeling if they do not know something that is expected of them or already covered that they didn't retain. This process is best done if the child is unaware that you are trying to find the cause of their tantrums or your concern that they are missing something in their education.
- Evaluate Your Child – In a relaxed environment, evaluate your child's skill level in the subjects where they have tantrums. Drill math facts, have them do some copywork, writing or reading, or whatever it is that seems to be when the child starts demonstrating their tantrum.
- Pop Quizzes in Disguise – Begin using driving time, standing in lines or waiting for appointments as ways to do oral math or ask questions that will help you distinguish the comprehension of subjects you are questioning if there are gaps.
- Play Games that Uses the Skills in Question – Staying a little below the level you expect your child to be at, begin to play games on the Kindle Fire, computer, board games or other options to see how quickly they can do the skills in questioned.
- Implement a Teacher Day – Switch places with your child once a week and allow them the opportunity to be the teachers. If they are able to ‘teach' you a past lesson without difficulty, they have learned the necessary things. However, if they are not able to cover the basic information necessary to play teacher in the subject you can easily identify the gaps.
The key to identifying behavior issues is to take a step back and become very observant of your child's behavior at different times and in different situations. Often times, with children who are having homeschool tantrums, they have already learned that they can manipulate the situations that they don't prefer and control the outcome by their behavior.
To identify behavior issues, you are really going to need to be objective and honest with yourself. If you identify some issues that are arising outside of lessons but are similar to the actions during the homeschool tantrums, it is best to work on the issues in other places before addressing them in the schooling.
- Evaluate Your Child's Obedience – How quickly or willing is your child when asked to do something around the house that he or she doesn't prefer? What actions do they exhibit if they are trying to get out of the chore being asked of them? How similar are these actions when they have a tantrum during their homeschool?
- Evaluate Your Child's Ability to Work Through a Challenge – How does your child react when they have challenges to work through when learning a new skill or interest? Are they easily upset when they don't get it the first time or are they happy to keep trying to learn?
- Evaluate Your Child's Ability with Someone Else Teaching – This is difficult for a homeschooling mom, but necessary if you expect behavior issues as the reason behind the homeschool tantrums. These types of behavior issues are a way of manipulating the situation and to really determine it, you should consider having someone else teach the lessons that are seeing the tantrums the most. In just one or two lessons, you should be able to clearly know if it is a learning gap or a behavior issue.
Hands-on learning is a perfect way to use these number and counting activities. Your preschooler or kindergarten children will love these activities, and book suggestions.
50 Number and Counting Activities
My son has loved learning his alphabets through hands-on activities, and learning his numbers has been no different. Here is a collection of some of our favorite number activities on the web.
How to Teach Numbers with Legos by Joy in the Home
Magnetic Rocket Puzzle by Fantastic Fun and Learning
DIY Numtum Fun by Adventures of Adam
Train Track Number Hunt by Craftulate
Learning Numbers with Balloons by Teaching Mama
DIY Number Line by Fantastic Fun and Learning
Transportation Connect the Dots with Numbers by Craftulate
Race Car Math: Number Recognition by Frugal Fun with Boys
Homemade Numbered Popsicle Sticks Puzzle by Artsymomma
Active Number Game by Pieces by Polly
Exploring Loose Parts for Math by One Perfect Day
Learning Numbers by Activity Mom
Numeral Card Games by Kids Activity Blog
Playful Numeracy Math by Racheous
Number Recognition & Ordering with Paper Tubes by Learning with Play at Home
How to Teach Number Recognition with Sequence by Joy in the Home
Number Recognition with Marbles by Parenting Fun
Chalk Number Recognition with The Mother Huddle
Sort the Mail Play & Number Recognition Game by No Time for Flashcards
Number Sort by Learning 4 Kids
Star Number Cards by Teaching Mama
Working with Numbers by Kids Activity Blog
Simple Games for Number Recognition by Reading Confetti
Number Recognition Activity by The Princess and the Tot
Number Recognition Bean Bag Toss by The Sun Scholars
There is a different between number activities and counting activities. Children can learn how to identify numbers but then they must learn how to count in order to move forward with learning.
Math Games with Dominoes and Cards by Kids Activity Blog
Let's Go on a Counting Walk by Creative Family Fun
Play Dough Numbers by Here Comes the Girls Blog
Counting Practice for Toddlers with Pom Poms & Tubes by Where Imaginations Grows
Homemade Number Boards – Learning to Count by Artsymomma
Dump Truck Counting Math by The Measure Mom
DIY Counting Math Games by Where Imagination Grows
Counting with Play Dough Flowers by Here Comes the Girls Blog
Race to Fill the Cup – Counting Game by Frugal Fun with Boys
How Many by 1+1+1=1
Magnetic Pom Pom Counting by Teaching Mama
Race to Loose a Tooth by Toddler Approved
Counting Blocks, Building Towers by Hands on: As We Grow
Hot Chocolate Math by The Measured Mom
Paint Chip Number Punch by Reading Confetti
Kids Number Game by Kids Activity Blog
Counting Game: Run and Count by The Pleasantest Thing
Preschool Math with Lego Duplos by Frugal Fun for Boys
Numbers and Counting Egg Carton by Pocketful of Poises Blog
Ladybug Number Match and Counting Activity by Coffee Cups and Crayons
The Way We Count by For This Season
Number Line Run by Coffee Cups and Crayons
Number Rocks Math by B-Inspired Mama
Count and Sort Mailing Box Math Game by The Imagination Tree
Counting with Dice and Blocks by Hands on: As We Grow
Do you like hands-on activities? These 50 alphabet activities that you can do with your preschooler or kindergarten age children will be a great way to learn through play.
50 Alphabet Activities for Hands-on Learning
My son absolutely loves hands-on learning. We started many of these ideas when he was just two years old. He was learning the letters so quickly because he was engaged through play. That is what I love best about our learning boxes, and the hands-on activities around the web. Children are literally learning through play!
I want to share some of our favorite alphabet activities, and some great book ideas with you.
Alphabet Title Learning Box by Joy in the Home
DIY Touch and Feel Alphabet by Montessori En Casa
Garden ABC Hunt by Fantastic Fun and Learning
Letter of the Week Crafts by Crystal & Co.
ABC Bingo by My Joy-filled Life
How to Teach the Alphabet with Legos by Joy in the Home
Hungry Bear ABC Game by Fantastic Fun and Learning
Sandpaper-Like Letters DIY by Frog in a Pocket
DIY Light Table Alphabet by Winegums & Watermelons
ABC Scavenger Hunt at the Park by Craftulate
DIY Alphabet Pocket Chart by Lalymom
Geoboard Light Table Play Letter Shapes by Where Imagination Grows
Outdoor Alphabet Tracing by Artsy Momma
Alphabet Board by My Life of Travels and Adventures
Alphabet Order Game by Learn with Play at Home
Alphabet Beads Learning Box by Joy in the Home
Access Letters and Sounds with Puzzles by This Reading Mama
Alphabet Box by Living Montessori Now
Letter Sound Matching Game by Teaching Mama
Printable Letter Outlines by For This Season
Driveway ABC Game by Creative Family Fun
Alphabet Train by Craftulate
Water Bead Letter Recognition by Where Imagination Grows
Alphabet Party by Learn with Play at Home
Simple Alphabet Play Dough Tray by Little Bins for Little Hands
Alphabet Clothes Pins Learning Box by Joy in the Home
Seek and Shoot ABC Basketball by My Joy-filled Life
Alphabet Hop Game by Teacher Mama
Alphabet Rainbow Hunt by Adventures of Adam
Alphabet Lapbook with Game by The Mommy Talks
Race Car Alphabet Practice by Teach Beside Me
26 Ways to Learn the ABCs by This Reading Mama
Around the Table ABCs by Teacher Mama
DIY Alphablock Dominos by Adventures of Adam
Magnetic Letter Alphabet Soup by Pre-K Pages
Play-Doh Alphabet: A Pre-writing Activity by Joy in the Home
Alphabet Mat by Teach Beside Me
Homemade Tactile Letter Cards by Teaching Mama
Active Alphabet Activities by Toddler Approved
ABC Alphabet Clothes Pin Activity by The Chick n' Coop
Alphabet Stamping: A Pre-writing Activity by Joy in the Home
Alphabet Train Matching Activity for Kids by Toddler Approved
Letter Delivery by Growing Book by Book
Alphabet Garden by No Time for Flash Cards
Treasure Hunt Alphabet Activity by B-inspired Mama
7 Preschool Activities to Teach the Alphabet by Joy in the Home
31 Days of ABCs by All Done Monkey
ABCs of Movement Flashcards for Kids by Golden Reflection Blog
Learning Letters with Pipe Cleaners by Make and Takes
Alphabet for Starters by No Time for Flashcards
Journaling through the alphabet contains 26 journaling ideas for all ages on most subjects. This is a great way to get your family working together on the same topics and learning together through journaling. We have used Binder Books to do some of the ideas listed in this round up of ideas.
Journaling Through the Alphabet
If you love the idea of journaling or want to get away from using so many textbooks then these ideas are a great way to include more living books and journaling into your homeschool day. If you aren't sure how to journal, take a look at my Beginner's Guide to Nature Journaling to get inspired.
A is for Anatomy – Anatomy is the study of the body. There is so much to learn about the body and this study will only make your child (and you) to grow more in awe of the Creator.
B is for Biography – Biographies are huge in our homeschooling method. So you can imagine the amount of biographies we read. Our favorite biographies that we have ever read are from YWAM Publishing.
C is for Composers – A perfect way to add a Charlotte Mason method into your homeschool
Get tips on how to implement these three letters.
D is for Dinosaurs – All of my boys have loved dinosaurs and being such creationist, we make the study of dinosaurs part of our homeschooling journey. One of my favorite journaling ideas for boys is to have them journal dinosaurs.
E is for Explorers – One of my favorite ways to study the explorers is in a unit study format. I share some great lesson plans on my Charlotte Mason Way blog.
F is for Founding Fathers – We are a very patriotic family and studying the founding of our country is something we start at a very young age. One of our necessary things to study is the Declaration of Independence.
See ideas to add these three letters to your family's learning.
G is for Geography – I love that geography can be taught by itself or within any study of a person's life. My son loved when we really took a full year to journal and learn about some great places across the globe.
H is for History – I love using journaling in history! In our high school American History, our children have journaled historical eras in Binder Book form and each of them learned different aspects because it was interest-lead with a few guidelines of what was necessary to include.
I is for Israelites – To study the Israelites, it is fun to do a family tree, study the locations that they settled and a little history for each of the tribes.
These three letters have some wonderful tips here.
J is for Jesus – Studying the life of Jesus is one of the best ways to share your Christian beliefs with your children.
K is for King – Kings are a great way to study a country, empire or nation. Using a good timeline from Bible times to current times is a good way to study the line of Kings for different countries, their titles and what they are best known for, including the battles or wars that happened during their reign.
Be sure to check out the ideas for these two letters.
L is for Lewis & Clark – In 1803, Lewis and Clark led the expedition into the Louisianna Territory known as the Corp of Discovery.
M is for Monuments – The United States if full of great historical monuments that every child should be able to identify at a glance.
Be sure to check out the ideas for these two letters.
N is for New World – We have read a lot of different books about the New World, the 13 colonies and the beginning of our nation. There are so many journaling ideas that you can do for these studies, but allowing a personal interest to lead what is journaled during these studies will really be exciting for the children.
O is for Oceans – What child wouldn't love to have a study on the ocean and all that is within it.
P is for Plants – The study of plants can be such a fun way to add hands-on learning through journaling.
More ideas for these letters are a click away.
Q is for Queen – Just with studying Kings, Queens can prove to be a great way to introduce history of other countries and times.
R is for Recipes – Calling all cooks into the kitchen to journal a recipe is so much fun!
S is for Science – Our family loves science and we utilize journaling so much within this subject, even into high school!
More ideas for these letters are a click away.
T is for Trees – I love using nature as a journaling opportunity. Studying trees is a great way to introduce journaling into your homeschooling.
U is for the United States – Being citizens of the United States is a blessing and one that I want my children to appreciate.
V is for Vivaldi – Vivaldi is a composer of the famous Vivaldi's Four Seasons classical music series.
Get inspiration for these three letters.
W is for Writing – Within our Charlotte Mason journey, writing narration has become a given part of our assignments and it is an easy thing to add to journaling.
X is for eXtra Activities – I love having my children journal about what they learned on our field trips and bring their own perspective into their learning.
See ideas to add to your homeschooling with these two letters.
Y is for Yearly Evaluation – One thing I love about the Charlotte Mason method is how she taught to do evaluations. Her evaluations were not things that the children filled in the blanks or pick an answer from multiple choices, but rather were the concepts of the child from their memory of what they remembered from something they studies.
Z is for Zoology – There is nothing so exciting to a younger child than learning about animals and the study of zoology is a wonderful journaling idea.
Gain inspiration with one click for these two letters.